Stumbling across the twitter adoption community has been fantastic. It is great to be able to reach out to people that share similar experiences. I wish I had found this three and a half years ago.
But it does break my heart to read how some people are struggling and to particularly hear people say that they feel they are failing their children.
Like everyone I have days when I despair and days when I feel like everything I do is wrong. Parenting is challenging and parenting adopted children brings new challenges almost every day. However we are all human. We cannot get it right all the time. Nobody can. Often we do what we think is best at the time. Sometimes we have just had enough. There is no such thing as the perfect parent.
But most importantly we mustn’t forget that we do also get it right a lot of the time. Every step, however small is a major achievement and every moment we spend with our children is precious. Snuggling up on the sofa reading a story, laughing at a shared joke, kissing them better when they fall over. Everything we do is because we love them and want them to feel secure and above all else, happy.
They are part of a family and that is amazing. Being a parent is amazing. Every day we are creating new, happy, memories, which will also become part of their life story. So please, when you are having a really dark day, don’t forget that what you are doing is amazing and you are not alone!